Introduction
When God removes someone from your life, it is for a reason. You may think it is a bad thing but God knows more about us than we know ourselves. He also knows what is best for us. If we trust Him and allow Him to direct us, we will avoid some dangerous, painful situations and have better outcomes. This understanding requires deep faith and trust in His divine plan. By letting go, you make room for the blessings God intends to bestow upon you. Our parents offer us guidance because they have more experience in life. We often ignore their advice and end up reaping the bitter consequences of our decisions and actions. God knows more than our parents as He knew each of us even before the foundations of the world. Here are some key insights and reasons why you should let someone go when God removes them from your life. Do not try to cling to them and invite them back into your inner circle.
Trust in God’s Plan
God will never take away something good from you. Whenever He removes someone or something, you can rest assured that the replacement will be far better for you. Trust that God will place the right people in your life at the right time and for the right reasons. God’s plan is always the best, even if the process is painful and hard. There is a popular hymn with the chorus,
“Trust and obey,
For there’s no other way
To be happy in Jesus,
But to trust and obey.”
Remember, when God is silent, He is still working on your behalf. As Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose.” If only you could see the traps and snares you would encounter with that person in your life, you would thank God for removing them. A line in the popular song by Kelly Clarkson states, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Believe it!
God is Doing a New Thing
Isaiah 43:19 reminds us, “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” With this promise, remember that God’s intention is always to replace what was taken with something much better as He shapes us to be more like Him. If something didn’t work out as planned, it is God’s way of saying, “I’ve got something much better.” Like most people, you may be resistant to change. You may feel that the people around you are the right ones. You may believe someone is a perfect fit for you, based on your limited understanding of human nature: who you are and who that person is. A pastor once said,” Many women marry the groom’s man, and the groom attends the wedding.” We never know until something happens to expose what we did not see. You may not understand why someone is removed from your life when it happens, but eventually, you will – in hindsight.
The Importance of Silence and Discretion
Proverbs 12:23 advises, “Be sensible and don’t tell everything you know.” When walking with the Lord, He gives you visions about your future and life. These visions are meant for you to act upon, not always to share. Understand that Satan does not know your thoughts or plans until you speak them. He is not like God who knows our thoughts even before we think them. By keeping certain things to yourself, you prevent Satan from scheming against you and potentially thwarting God’s plans. Walk in silence because the heart of man is desperately wicked. Many people have sabotaged others who were their “best friends,” often out of envy. They harbor secret grudges or believe that they are more deserving than you. As long as they are better off than you everything is okay. The moment it seems that you are in a better position than them, they will underhandedly do everything possible to undermine you and cause you to fail. People have gone through their entire lives without knowing that their trusted friend was the one who stood in their way while whispering in their ear that it was someone else. The signs are usually there but are overlooked. I recall sharing a business idea with a “friend” and two weeks later she repeated it to me as though it was her idea. That was an early warning of several others that were to come. “A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit; neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. “Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.” (Matt. 7:15–20)
Reasons God May Remove Someone from Your Life
1. To Fulfill His Plan
God’s ultimate plan is for us to live with Him eternally. Anything or anyone hindering this plan will be removed. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” When God removes someone it would be foolish of you to bring them back into your life.
2. They May Be Toxic
Many people we encounter may harbor secret ill will or become increasingly toxic. God, who sees the heart, knows our limits and may remove such individuals to protect us. As 1 Samuel 16:7 says, “The Lord sees not as man sees; man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” Some people will smile to your face while stabbing you in the back.
3. They Are Needed Elsewhere
God may remove someone from your life because they are needed elsewhere to fulfill their God-given purpose. This may be challenging to understand, especially if they were your good friend or partner, but it is part of God’s grand design. Remember, God’s ways are higher than our ways and so too are His thoughts.
4. They Are Not Right for You
Sometimes, a person is not right for you, or the timing isn’t correct. God, who knows the beginning and the end, removes such people to align with His perfect plan for you. Romans 8:28 reiterates that all things work together for the good of those who love God. Do not agonize over it. Trust that God is working it out for that person as much as He is doing so for you.
5. God Has Better Things in Store
Often, we cling to what we have, thinking it is the best life has to offer. God, however, has unimaginable blessings in store for us. 1 Corinthians 2:9 reminds us, “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him.” If you knew the things God is leading you into you would not lose a minute of sleep about what has happened. You would be rejoicing.
Conclusion
When God removes someone from your life, it is often a blessing in disguise. Trust that everything happens for a reason, and God’s plan is always for your good. Do not chase after those who leave. Instead, move forward with faith and wish the best for them. Categorize the people in your life and treat them accordingly. When people show you who they are through negative behaviors, forgive them but walk wisely around them. Matthew 10:16-18 (KJV), “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” Pray continually and place your life in God’s hands. Rest assured that He will protect and guide you towards a better future.
Remember, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6). God’s love and plans for you are always greater than you can imagine. Let go and let God work His miracles in your life. Walk in the light He provides for your path and accept His peace.